Welcome to your first exploration of sex toys with your partner! This guide is designed to help you introduce sex toys in a non-judgmental and welcoming way. We'll cover how to introduce sex toys, recommend some useful non-toy items, and provide tips for getting started.
Embracing Sex Toys: No Shame, Only Curiosity
First, there's no shame in using sex toys. Curiosity is smart, and good sex is all about play. And what is play without toys? If you're looking for a good starting point, consider introducing something that everyone can enjoy.
Once you've decided on a direction, start with toys that allow you to explore and play. Focus on pleasure rather than orgasm. Pay attention to your partner's reactions, such as their breathing, smiles, and other signs of interest. Couples therapy can help you learn or relearn these physical cues.
Playful Sex: Stay Curious and Check In
Remember, sex is a marathon, not a race! It's okay not to know everything from the start. Stay curious and make voluntary choices. Take breaks, change positions, light candles, adjust your clothes, or move around. Keep laughing—play is not serious! Laughter indicates safety and helps regulate your nervous system when trying new things.
Enjoy a Massage to Connect and Increase Awareness
Massage is a great way to increase intimacy and affection while learning which parts of your partner's body are more sensitive. Always use lube with toys to make play easier, and ensure your toys are compatible with silicone-based lubes.
Therapist-Approved Sex Toy Suggestions
- Classic Rabbit Vibrator: Versatile and easy to use, it works well alone or with a partner.
- Vibrating Dildo or G-Spot Stimulator: Great for internal stimulation.
- Prostate Massager: Fun and useful for exploring submissive/dominant roles. Requires consent, trust, and understanding.
- Small Tapered Plug: A good starting point for beginners.
Conclusion
Remember, toys can also include props and furniture for added support and deeper penetration. Flowers (or roses) can stimulate the clitoris or nipples and add a cute touch.
Finally, products are available to ease any pain that may occur during intercourse. Take your time and enjoy the process. Sex should be fun, playful, and full of possibilities for exploring desire and pleasure.
Explore the world of sex toys to enhance your pleasure and intimacy, and discover new ways to connect with your partner.